Thursday, 30 July 2009

• I'm Crazy About This Girl But Can't Get Over Minor Issues

  Hi all,
  
  I'm new to this site and I joined to try and get some help in my current relationship. Here's the summary:
  
  I have currently been dating my girlfriend for 10 and a half months and we are both still crazy about each other. She has so many attributes and characteristics that I look for in girls. She's smart and witty, has an awesome sense of humor and she is very considerate. We started pretty fast and we spend a lot of time together, but I never get tired of her company!!
  
  We can stay in and just watch TV or we can go out and wander downtown for hours. It doesn't matter what we do, I'm always happy in her company.
  
  I've wanted to take the next step and allow myself to completely fall for this girl and tell her that I love her, but there are a couple issues that I am having that are stuck in the back of my mind.
  
  First off, and kind of the basis of my issues is that her parents are extremely wealthy. I don't have an issue with that part, but some things she says or mentions kind of get stuck in my head and bring me down. I don't like talking about money and wealth but every once in a while she will say something about shopping at this expensive store or how much their car cost. It started off as small and I told myself it was nothing and to forget about it, but now every little hint of bringing up what she has brings me down and I normally don't respond and enter a kind of weird mood. I know I blow it up a lot, but I find myself scrutinizing her very harshly. Has anyone been in my spot before? Is there any suggestions how to either get over it or approach her in a non invasive way?
  
  Secondly, her parents pay for everything for her. She's never had to learn about budgeting or what it's like to not be able to get something. She has never had to work and she's 23 years old. She's still in school but no summer jobs or anything. I feel that even though I am in a profession that is financially sound, I will never be able to provide the kind of security her parents give her and therefore she would be high maintenance if we ever moved in/got engaged in the future.
  
  I'm so torn because this girl means the world to me and materialism is getting between us.
  Can anyone help? Give me some kind of suggestions so bring it up without attacking her? Or is there a way I can overlook it and not blow it up?

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